Does this question come to your mind?
We grow up. We have crushes. We fall in love. And we get married- to the person we were in love or to someone our family chose for us. At the end we are happy, with someone we will spend the rest of our life; someone we call as our “ideal” Life partner.
But this word “Marriage” arises a very big question in my mind. Is it the end? Should it be the end? To all the past feelings?
I mean to ask- After marriage, should a person complete forget/erase the people from their past? What do they do when the people from past memories haunt them? Do they panic? Do they seek help from their partners? Will their partners question them/or their commitment?
An “IDEAL” Life partner wouldn’t just be one who cares, who loves, who listens, who pampers, who protects but someone who gives you the power to fight, someone who fights for you, someone who is ready to wait for the real YOU, someone who questions anyone who questions you and someone who holds your hand when your past memories haunt you, someone who is just right and much more.
Thinking of all that, one big question arises. Admist the big bad world, does this term “Ideal partner” exist or is it non-existent like Mayans?
An open ended question, to which I have no answers to!
Love is not rocket science, it is just feelings. It is the happiness the other person brings in your life with their presence. Love may be devoid of words but it fills the life with emotions. Love does not think if life will be comfortable after settling down. Love does not think before falling in love & love does not think after falling in love. And those who follow the path of love stay happy, no matter what the conditions are.
Yes, that’s what “Barfi” is. The movie revolves around 3 characters- Barfi, Jhilmil and Shruti. It brings about a story from the 1970’s in the cities of Kolkata and Darjeeling. It expresses the feeling we love, the feeling we detest, the feeling we hate at times, the feeling called “Love”; in the most beautiful & simple form. The movie brings out the essence of Love without the need of words, the pure innocent smile & the beauty of trains. You won’t hear too many words through the movie, but you will feel a lot. This one is for the heart, for the emotions & for Love.
Coming to performances, I felt each and every actor has given an excellent performance. The music takes the movie to another level. Phir Le Aaya Dil was the high point of the movie for me, and it just touches your heart very strongly. There are parts when the movie is slow, there are parts where you feel it’s nothing out of the world but as the movie ends; you are on an emotional high. A brilliantly potrayed movie with moments of Awww-ness.
This movie makes you think on how the essence of love has changed. How we need words to love & how words also fall short to love. A sweet, simple & a heart touching story.
Overall, a must watch for people who think their heart deserves some love every now & then.
I help a friend and feel happy. But I do expect them to help me when you need them..
I like a guy. I take out time for him. I care for him. I expect him to do the same..
I get gifts for my family. I also expect them to get me gifts at some point of time..
I have guests at home and I’m the best host possible. I also expect them to treat me the same way when I go to their house..
And when these expectations are not met, we get hurt. Each person expects, either consciously or subconsciously. At times we are hurt , other times we hurt others. It’s a vicious circle.
It is said that we should do everything without any expectations , then Y do we keep them. If we know expectations hurt, then y do we keep them ? Y do we like to get hurt ?
It’s because we are humans. We are customized this way that we expect automatically. And every time our expectations are not met , we get hurt. Hurt is what helps us grow. Love is no doubt the ultimate thing which evolves us as a person, but until we have got hurt ,we don’t grow completely.
The day we stop expecting is when we grow complete. It’s the day we reach the ultimate stage. Though in today’s times, it’s close to impossible to reach there.
Do give it a thought.
From ‘Friends’ to ‘Lovers’ and from ‘Lovers’ to ‘Friends’. The former journey is what almost everyone goes through & the latter is what few relationships go through. It’s either when the parting has been due to reasons not involving any personal fight or when one of them is still not okay with the parting. But the point is – Is it really possible to be “Just Friends” after you’ve gone through a romantic phase wherein you were the most important to a person to a phase wherein you just “might” be the most important.
Let me analyze all the situations & give my point of view on each of them. If both the people are still very much in love even after the parting (which was not ugly but circumstances forced the parting); it would be evident in every form of communication & much more evident in every meeting. Both the people may not show it, but inside; there would be expectations and still a ray of hope. But still after a point, they can become very good friends who understand the situation (provided they’re mature enough) & are ready to accept the reality.
While if the situation is like only one of them is still in love & the other one has moved on; things can get very messy. The person still in love would have high expectations subtly which would be shattered each time if the other person has moved on completely. But if the other person still has some speck of feeling left or cares about the person, they may try to bring things to normal; but eventually each conversation would end in a fight or turn out bad. In this kind of a situation, friendship may survive for few days or weeks or months depending on how long both of them can take the turmoil.
And if the point is where both of them have moved on in Life, they would probably not want to be friends. Even if they plan to remain friends, probability is that it would cause a lot of turmoil in their present romantic life. There are high chances that the present lovers would have a problem with the Ex-es, considering there were flames with those people at one time & there will always be “uncertainty” in mind. People would call it lack of trust, but , at the end we all are humans & each of us carry a speck of jealousy & insecurity within us; no matter we accept or not. So ultimately, friendship is very difficult until there is a high level of trust with the present lovers; eventually, yes it may just be possible; if things aren’t awkward.
Lastly, there can be a situation where a relationship ended ugly & both the people or one of them still wants to be friends after a gap of time primarily because they are unable to move on. There is a possibility that the other person would simply refuse to be friends, another possibility is that they eventually become friends but it got to awkward. Somebody will get hurt, some past things might be discussed & brought in time and again. Things which end ugly are pretty hard to get a beautiful new start unless there is a mutual level of understanding & respect for each other’s decisions. Or until time has made them mature enough.
This is just my point of view & it’s not necessary that the same happens as I mentioned. At the end, everything boils down to 1 thing- Understanding & Respect for each other. It’s the level of understanding that takes one through the ugly fights or rather to maintain relationships. If you’ve been more of friends than lovers while you were in the relationship, it would be much easier to be back to friends again; not that easy, but yes comparatively easier. And if you’re mature enough, you shall never hurt the other person in the process of getting your lover or friend back. At times, it is best to leave situations on time or just respect the other person’s decisions, no matter how hard they be. You should always keep one thing in mind- You had once loved the same person, that one person was once your world & the way you behave with them after the breakup reflects on how you are as a person. If you keep this in mind, you shall never hurt anyone & your life would be at much ease.
I am sure everyone who has been in a relationship can relate to atleast one of the situations. Were you mature enough to handle it in a good way? Do give it a thought and smile if you acted the way you should have :-).
Random Thought– Life has much more to offer than you can ever think with all it’s “uncertainty”.
“Love thy with all my heart. Love thy like my own heart”
I never knew what it was to be madly in love, to be crazy, to love someone with all your heart, to be a fan until 9 years back I saw HIM. I found my crazy, insane, bubbly side because of him and I shall love him for eternity for that. His innocence and his smile spelled their magic on me and there was no looking back. Even today, I can stare at him and get butterflies in my stomach when I have to meet him.
He is none other than “H.U.S.E.I.N”. I am sure almost all of you knew, if you know me since a while. He started off with his TV career where I saw him initially and then moved on to do dance shows, ultimately doing a Live entertainment show “Zangoora”. As every other person who is related to the entertainment industry, he too wished to make it to Bollywood someday. I have been closely following him since so many years, and I know that he is very talented and hard working. He is someone who deserves the best and no I am not being biased. If there is something wrong, I shall directly say it (even he knows it).
The big leap has finally come. Husein is doing a movie, though it’s a very small budget suspense thriller kind of movie. But he is going to be making the big shift, no matter the cast or any other aspect. The movie is titled “Shree” and is expected to come out at the start of next year. And this news makes me soo soo happy. As an ardent fan, I feel proud of my love and just want to wish him lots and lots of GoodLuck. I know whenever it hits the screens, it shall make his fans proud of him (Oh it shall defo make me proud). And I am so going to do the first review on it on this blog, which already makes me so excited. Just sending lots of prayers, good wishes and positivity to my love for all the success that he deserves and shall get with god’s grace. I love him, and I know I shall always love him.
My Love for him is just so special. Beyond words, beyond eternity.
p.s- ^^ Graphic done by Me
“Why Live when we are going to die one day?”
This was a question a 13-year-old asked me, which left me speechless as to how a small child could think so deep. I thought a lot and then I knew what I had to tell her. We need to live because God loves us. God gave us Life with a beautiful body, an intelligent mind and a thoughtful heart. He made an entire universe, made atleast few people who’d be our companions (friends) and gave us a family who’d love us unconditionally. He made some people funny, some philosophical, some serious and some bubbly. All of this was done to balance out each and every person, each and every emotion. For every angry person, they’d be a cheerful person; for every disgraceful thought, they’d be a thoughtful genuine thought.
Life is all about experiencing it all. It may not be a rosy path, but there’s certainly no fun in a path that dosenot include adventures and new lanes along with a lot of surprises. If we always knew how our life shall be, one day we’d be bored and probably wait for the end. Life is that path, that lets you explore the surprises and add thrill and excitement to them. Life is about experiencing every emotion that you can feel, communicating with every kind of person in terms of culture, country or the sense of thought.
Life is just not perfect but the imperfections work well if you let it live its pace. The experiences may not always be good but there’ll be surely some instances that’d make you smile when you are about to die. There would be some people around you who would want to reverse back time and re-live life with you when you are about to die. There shall be memories etched in your forgetful mind that shall well up your eyes when you’re about to die. There shall be instances that might have brought tears when they occurred but now you can’t help but laugh at your stupidity. There shall be music you shall have drowned in, delicacies you would have savored, continents you’d have travelled and explored. There shall also be moments where you had felt dying would be easy, but you cross those phases. There shall have just one moment, which shall force you to tell god – Dear God, please let me live more. All of these are few reasons we need to live for, and not just think of death before we even start living.
We take our life too seriously and in the process forget living. The lesson she learnt now shall remain with her forever, in her happy moments and her low times. The passion to Live should be ignited at intervals with positive energy, excitement and lots of lively thoughts. And if you won’t ignite, someone else will. Despite all the negativity, Life is worth living, not just dragging. Give it a chance.
That was a small chapter of Life from the book of thoughts on Life from my heart. Hope it shall make atleast 1 person S.M.I.L.E ! Thanks for reading.