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From a perfect education to a perfect life, we crave for everything perfect in between. A perfect friendship, love story, career, marriage, children, people.
What we forget is- Imperfections make us unique. There is no thing called perfection, it’s just a standard we’ve created around us. Perfection is in our mind. For a minute, instead of thinking “Shit, I was only 98% perfect, missed the spot by 2%. Try thinking Wow, I was just 2% imperfect”. See how just 1 word changes the whole notion.
Let’s accept our imperfections, and the imperfections of our relationships. It’ll just make us happier and content. And hey, happier people are just P.E.R.F.E.C.T 😉
They exchanged e-mails over an year. Trust had built up & they were always eager to get that 1 email in their inboxes. He told her about his new business & she told him about her new hobby classes. They had a world of their own.
It was her birthday & she awaited that 1 e-mail. At 11pm, an e-mail popped & brought a smile on her glum face. It read..
“Happy birthday my dear R”. I can’t fall in love with you. I’m married. Attached is my picture.
She read the e-mail over a 100 times. She opened his pictures he’d sent her & noticed the diamond sparkling on his wedding finger. She still thought it was all a joke & he would send a real surprise. She hurriedly pressed the Reply button & typed-
Stop joking you R. Give me my real surprise.
And pressed Send. It gave the same error the 100 times- Message cannot be sent. The e-mail id doesnot exist anymore.
Her world had crashed down. All she could do was read all his emails again & realize the truth.
Love- Love can hurt, real bad. Know a person well before you let your heart fall madly in love. Love is a real surprise when you fall for the right person, but it can be a real mess when it’s a wrong person.
Does this question come to your mind?
We grow up. We have crushes. We fall in love. And we get married- to the person we were in love or to someone our family chose for us. At the end we are happy, with someone we will spend the rest of our life; someone we call as our “ideal” Life partner.
But this word “Marriage” arises a very big question in my mind. Is it the end? Should it be the end? To all the past feelings?
I mean to ask- After marriage, should a person complete forget/erase the people from their past? What do they do when the people from past memories haunt them? Do they panic? Do they seek help from their partners? Will their partners question them/or their commitment?
An “IDEAL” Life partner wouldn’t just be one who cares, who loves, who listens, who pampers, who protects but someone who gives you the power to fight, someone who fights for you, someone who is ready to wait for the real YOU, someone who questions anyone who questions you and someone who holds your hand when your past memories haunt you, someone who is just right and much more.
Thinking of all that, one big question arises. Admist the big bad world, does this term “Ideal partner” exist or is it non-existent like Mayans?
An open ended question, to which I have no answers to!
They met at a common friends meetup. Facebook requests were sent, e-mails were exchanged but nobody thought they will fall in love. Those two, who took all decisions from their brain & kept their heart at bay. Something struck, not the heart; but the brains. Having a common interest for a lot of things, they started talking. Every now and then, their convos moved from SMS to Facebook to Emails to Chats to Phone calls.
1 year passed & things started changing, but only for her. Maybe her heart had started falling for someone, but she was not sure. She loved talking to him all the time. One person she would talk to, discuss every detail about her life, joke & indulge in leg pulling- it was him. But he wanted to make it big & not think about love. Love was not an option or a choice for him, which she knew very well.
Days passed and she felt more & more confused whether she should confess or not. But someone else was very sure he felt the same. He did special things but she could not notice since she was new to this feeling of Love. She thought he did it all as a friend.
Until one day, when somehow he pushed her to confess her feelings. To tell what was bothering her all the time. Well, at the end, she did confess but with a fear that he would say no.
Viola, it was a yes. It was a yes from the guy who did not want to think about it now. And they are together, hoping to let their hearts talk finally. Hoping to make some moments in which their brain don’t have a say. To finally be the lovers their heart wanted them to be.
Love- It can happen even if you are totally against it. Don’t go by what you/other person thinks; because you never know when the feelings change. You never know when the heart starts talking.
“Some friendships are special enough that intentional distances hurt for a long long time”
Have you ever felt like a friend suddenly tries to maintain an intentional distance? I know all of us have lost friendships with time; wherein we or the other person has not been able to keep in touch, where in the distances came unintentionally. But what would u say to friendships where one of the friends consciously maintains a distance?
What do you do when you know that those friends are people you can always count upon. When you know those are the people who’d be the first ones to help you if you’re in a problem. When you know the conversations, however silly they may be, were enjoyed by both people. When you know there has never been misunderstandings or arguments. But still the friends move away, leaving you completely baffled without mentioning any reasons.
And when such things happen, it’s the friendship that suffers but it’s the people who suffer the most. The one who moves away consciously may or may not feel it much, but the other person who is just left wondering about the reasons literally breaks down thinking about what went wrong. There are times when people who’ve been left alone even think it was all their mistake but still they never reach the core problem. And the worst happens when the person doesn’t solve the maze of your mind, is unable to answer your questions. It happens once, the mind understands; but when it happens more than that, with almost similar situations; it’s baffling. It’s depressing, it’s irritating and it definitely takes away the peace of mind.
Such things happen, yet life moves on. With a hint of sadness within, only to wish those distances wear off!!
And she had to end it. It was getting unbearable for her to take the pain. She never thought Love would give her so much pain, transform her into a feeling-less robot. All she wanted now was peace. He couldn’t believe she did what he had been doing all this time, leaving her; only thing different was she was determined to never return back.
He tried all means to get her back. He tried to make her remember all the good times but her heart had turned into a stone. He tried to make her lonely by spreading false news to her friends. She stayed quiet, not wanting to do anything. Her true friends stayed with her like a rock. He tried to tell her family but her family supported her. She knew it was not her mistake, he deserved it. All this time, he turned into a monster while she kept silent. Few months later, he realized his mistakes & tried to apologize. But he had already done more harm than he realized.
It’s been 5 years & he still waits for forgiveness from her. He never leaves a chance to apologize. But she has her life, a life with no place for someone who never knew the true meaning of love. She is happy today, without him, without his love. And he, is still waiting for forgiveness & by the looks of it, shall have to wait his entire life.
Love- Love never teaches you to make someone’s life hell. Remember the person you’re hurting is the same person you love. Even if things don’t work out, don’t turn into a monster. Try to make peace with things.